@cascadiawillem Graeber has something to say about that last assertion.
tl;dr have another read of David Graeber's essay "The Bully's Pulpit": https://thebaffler.com/salvos/bullys-pulpit
Until then, provocation remains not just a tactic of fascism but a central part of its appeal. "Triggered much, libs?" was born at school.
But every five year old has a breaking point, and so does every adult. Maybe we will learn this as a culture someday, but probably not soon.
Instead of helping kids, this advice helps admins to ignore the problem. This is also the goal of similar advice to anti-fascism protestors.
Civil rights activists in the '60s developed real training in ignoring provocateurs, but we expect 5 year olds to be good at it instantly.
Advice to bullied kids to "just ignore them" has persisted so long because it isn't meant to help the victim - it's always failed at that.
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